Of Gfs and BFs...
This thought came to me, when I heard about my friend, and his "GFs'". They had been dating for the past two months, and things did not " worked out", so they decided to call it quits. Funnily enough, he's back on the dating regime with another girl, and this time, (like the last) he believes he has found his love.
I thought it was the guys who were like this, when I met another of my colleagues, a female (mind you, a beautiful one :). She told me about her past, about her 5 or so "BFs'" and the present ones.
Call me old fashioned, but I have some kind of hatred, towards both these terms, viz, "GF and BF". Maybe its the American way of life, that people go through a whole host of relationships, to find that one special one. Or maybe that's how life is now. Me, well, I think any relationship can be made "that blessed one", with a little bit of commitment, a little adjustment, and a lot less ego.
Remember the great love stories?? Romeo and Juliet, Heer Ranjha...Raj and Simran (i'm not one for corny movies, but we Indians remember that name for sure!). They did not have BFs or GFs. What they had was pure, undaunting love, for each other. Obviously, they would have faced some problems, but did they let go, citing that it's not working? No, they reinvented themselves, found that love again- lived happily ever after.
Yup I agree it all sounds to fairy tale like, but mind you, it can happen. I know a story, a true story, of a couple, who have what you can call true love. They are both friends, good friends and are never afraid to cite the other ones' weakness to him/her. They are both head over heels for each other, working for each other, and live for each other. Do they have problems, YES they do. They go days without seeing each other, without even talking to each other (even on the phone!), but is there any quarrels over "you don't have time for me?" No. Or maybe things like, "you've changed?" No.....
So the question is, what do they have that others don't?? Its trust. Pure, unparalled trust. You trust someone, and min you, make sure the other one knows it, and then you'll find what true love is. Any human (and if he is one) values the trust of someone. It always feels nice to have someone's trust, and that's when you will feel like walking that extra mile when in a relationship. Give and take trust, and see yourself blown over by the secretive true love.
I thought it was the guys who were like this, when I met another of my colleagues, a female (mind you, a beautiful one :). She told me about her past, about her 5 or so "BFs'" and the present ones.
Call me old fashioned, but I have some kind of hatred, towards both these terms, viz, "GF and BF". Maybe its the American way of life, that people go through a whole host of relationships, to find that one special one. Or maybe that's how life is now. Me, well, I think any relationship can be made "that blessed one", with a little bit of commitment, a little adjustment, and a lot less ego.
Remember the great love stories?? Romeo and Juliet, Heer Ranjha...Raj and Simran (i'm not one for corny movies, but we Indians remember that name for sure!). They did not have BFs or GFs. What they had was pure, undaunting love, for each other. Obviously, they would have faced some problems, but did they let go, citing that it's not working? No, they reinvented themselves, found that love again- lived happily ever after.
Yup I agree it all sounds to fairy tale like, but mind you, it can happen. I know a story, a true story, of a couple, who have what you can call true love. They are both friends, good friends and are never afraid to cite the other ones' weakness to him/her. They are both head over heels for each other, working for each other, and live for each other. Do they have problems, YES they do. They go days without seeing each other, without even talking to each other (even on the phone!), but is there any quarrels over "you don't have time for me?" No. Or maybe things like, "you've changed?" No.....
So the question is, what do they have that others don't?? Its trust. Pure, unparalled trust. You trust someone, and min you, make sure the other one knows it, and then you'll find what true love is. Any human (and if he is one) values the trust of someone. It always feels nice to have someone's trust, and that's when you will feel like walking that extra mile when in a relationship. Give and take trust, and see yourself blown over by the secretive true love.
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